Others ask the same question, and adopted children sometimes have a double struggle in themselves, which is often not resolved until they meet or connect in some way with their biological parents.
I’ve also read that whole people groups struggle with identity when something significant to their definition, like land, is taken away.
It’s a great question.
It can be an incredibly difficult and powerful journey to discover yourself.
I wish I’d thought of it when I was a teenager. ‘Who am I?’ Isn’t just about who I want to be? It’s also about ‘where have I come from?’
It’s interesting that some social science research suggests social disorder can be traced back to a lack of connection with the past, and with family. It’s as if we become unsettled if we don’t know our roots.
It’s unsettling to be disconnected from people, but we can also be disconnected from nature. Did you know there’s a disorder called ‘Nature Deficit Disorder’. It suggests some of our stress is the result of not spending enough time in nature.
What is it that helps us answer the question, ‘Who am I?’ and get out of the confusion?
Some of the answers are implied above, and I’m sure you know it’s complicated. Did you notice how all of the answers are relational? We know ourselves, not in isolation, but by being connected to our people, our past, and even to our world.
Also, if we’re spiritual beings and we’re not in relationship with God, don’t you think that would make us incomplete as well?
In John 1:14, John says,
‘The Word became flesh and made his dwelling among us. We have seen his glory, the glory of the one and only Son, who came from the Father, full of grace and truth.
John is telling us he’s seen God in the flesh. He’s reminding us, that in the person of Jesus we can know God, and knowing God is what makes us complete, enables us to know ourselves.
I’ll leave you with a saying.
‘Know Jesus, know God.
Know God, know yourself!’